Thursday, February 11, 2010
Understanding the babies concept
I recently noted on my twitter, that I would want to have babies, even out of wedlock, quickly followed by my belief that one must wait until marriage to partake in the actual manufacturing process with your then wife.
Maybe I am unique, but when I think of sex, I think of babies. I want babies, and can't wait until marriage when I can have babies. People often treat babies as some sort of confinement on a person, as a prison sentence. But the thought of a woman one day pregnant with my child, the excitement as I consider what it must be like when your wife gives birth to your first child, my joy at the thought of being a father, married to a mother: a treasured woman, these thoughts excite me. I want children, and I want to spend my life with one woman. For me, the Catholic teachings on sex and marriage, correspond with my emotional response. What is more wonderment enhancing: exciting than making life, the thought that one may make a saving in the Bank of God, and possibly reap a friend and dependent from such. I don't believe in contraception, and I would never, and I vow this, I would never use a condom, nor, even if I disobeyed God by having extra-marital sex, would I want to further disobey him, and miss out on the great wonderment which is fatherhood, something I look forward to having when I marry one day. There is no just argument for becoming a murderer.
I remember in high school a couple, asking me if it were more moral to wear a condom in fornication, or not to. I responded, if I remember correctly, and am not confabulating: simply, that it was the second which was more moral. You see, there are degrees of sin, and sex outside of marriage with a condom is far more mortally wounding that sex outside of marriage without a condom, which is still a mortal sin. The sexual act is supposed to be a vow a promise: saying I will be here forever, and I will raise our child together. Modern fertility awareness is up to 98% effective year on year at preventing child-birth, and is acceptable. I will likely use fertility awareness one day, but when I look inside, what I really want to do is multiply, I want lots of children. I want to rear them, and teach them, and love them, even die for them.
I also desire to marry a woman, so as to love her infinitely, and die for her if necessary. I desire to love, and care, and add onto life. I am pro-life all the way. Oddly, this outlook gives me so much. You see, lust is pursuit of sexual pleasure apart from the unitive and procreative properties. It is sexuality with the life filtered out. It is not life, but death, and to many: addiction.
For me, I want a feminine but unique and wonderful woman, not to satisfy lust, which we all encounter, or at least most: if not only in the mind at times. No, I want a woman so I can love her, and be loved by her. I want the family, I want the children. I need a companion, not a therapeutic system.I want commitment and children, and this I have discovered is inside of me. Contraception, fornication, all these things, or the desires for them, do these not come from fear somehow. That fear, I am told is absent when Fertility Awareness is chosen for non-selfish reasons. That fear need not be there in a permanent relationship.
Jesus said marriage cannot be dissolved, although the relationship of those not validly married can be dissolved. Yet, are we to separate that which God has united?
Next time you have inappropriate thoughts, think: shall I marry this wonderful creation of God's, this daughter of God? Imagine a child inside of her. Ask yourself, what right you have to this temple of God's? And know, sex outside of marriage is the breaking of a physical promise, a promise of commitment, a promise of love, of loyalty and of childbirth.
I want children, but should I love a woman, I should not disrespect her by taking what belongs as yet to God. God is a foundation for a sacramental marriage. He is a foundation for all relationships. I believe in marriage, yet even if you have a child outside of it: remember: this is God's child you are dealing with, this is His creation, and it deserves life. God has loved you enough to make another like you. It is worthwhile keeping it.
When in my grade eleven leadership camp at school, I was caused by circumstance to have to inform my peers of my virginity, I was proud of God's gift to me. He had protected me, and the girls certainly liked my innocence. It is even more powerful to have the power to do something, and to not do so. I find even today: chastity, and respect get one further than anything else... more than that, they teach us to make emotional connections with others. We also want chaste women, who await marriage and are not lewd or evil tongued, women who wear appropriate clothing, and who respect their body and their God given appearance and inner beauty. Rather uplift the mind, than trap it in evil.
I want a chaste relationship, and I want marriage and children. This is natural and God given. Do not ever let society convince you otherwise!
As for me, what attracts me first to a girl is purity and innocence, is chastity should she have it, and with it femininity, and beauty. Any girl I should date, I should want to marry one day. And I should therefor respect her body and soul. This, we as men must do- we must be chaste, and this you as women must also do!
Who is Marc Evan Aupiais?Attorney; Notary; Writer; Dad; Fiancé; Enthusiast of Germanic, Celtic, & Romance languages, with a love of exploring law, linguistics, sociology, & int. news.
A deep interest in the law of South Africa, especially our constitutional and common law, guided my studies and continues to influence my current career path. I enjoy engaging in the day to day work of being an attorney, and reading the material contained in our case law.
I have gained and enjoyed much exposure to the law and to the day to day details of practice, and to extensive litigation work, during my years of practise since my admission to the profession and enrolment as an attorney of the High Court, as well as during my articles of clerkship and, prior to that, when I worked as a student counsellor/paralegal at the Wits Law Clinic – in the final year of law school and during my studies at the School for Legal Practice.
I am passionate about the place of my birth, South Africa, and am proud to be a patriot and citizen of this diverse and beautiful nation. I consider myself a global citizen and keep connections in a number of different nations across the world. Communicating with people from other cultures, I believe, has aided me to have a more open-minded approach in so far as how I see, and interact with, the world.
I believe success requires not just hard work but intelligence, perseverance, humility, integrity, ingenuity, diligence, a strong work ethic, and the courage to request the assistance of those better-versed in a matter, or field, where necessary.
The cultures and legal systems, morals and courtesy systems, languages, intricacies and religions of South Africa and of the nations of the world, are subjects I love to research. I enjoy reading and writing. To keep abreast with important events occurring in other countries, I find my knowledge of other languages, especially French, to be highly useful. I passed Afrikaans at a matric level. I took Zulu from grades 5 to 7. The language I am best acquainted with, is my first language of English, which I speak in everyday life.
I enjoy public speaking and debate, and believe that manners, appropriate dress for an occasion and courtesy are of very great importance. I enjoy hard work and like to throw myself entirely into solving a problem.
Law & Career
I currently work under my own name and style as an attorney and sole proprietor, at Marc Evan Aupiais Attorney.
Law firms I have worked at include: DL Wilson Attorneys in Randburg North, Desmond Barry Attorneys in Morningside, Sandton, Botha & Sutherland Attorneys in Aukland Park, Johannesburg, and Serina Govender Inc. Attorneys. I also edit and write for the SACNS, have written breaking news for a multinational service called InfosNews Breaking News, and act as a correspondent for the popular french language Les News service.
Novels I have written include
A Lesser Instinct | My first foray into the world of long form fiction.
Read it without payment - on Scribd.
I have a YouTube account, where I sometimes post videos.